by Darcy Carmichael
I was awaken last night just after having a dream where I was standing in the road trying to warn people of danger ahead. I was trying to get them to slow down and be careful through the treacherous road that laid before them. When I woke, I asked God of what danger I was warning people. Immediately, a few couples came to mind. These couples are all having difficulties in their marriages.
Marriage is a sacred union. Most people enter marriage with the traditional wedding vows.
Do you promise to love him, comfort him, honor and keep him for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health and forsaking all others, be faithful only to him so long as you both shall live?
Even if couples vary from the above vows, they hold many of the same thoughts. Let’s look at these vows.
LOVE HIM – Love is a choice which is why you promise to do it. If it was just a feeling you could fall in and out of, there isn’t any way you could promise to always do it. It isn’t always going to be easy, but you need to make the choice to love your spouse.
HONOR HIM – Again, choosing to honor isn’t always going to be easy, but you promise to do it on your wedding day. How does honor look? Well, it could be by not saying negative things about your spouse to others. It could be choosing his likes over your own. It definitely is submitting to his authority and God-given role in your marriage.
FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE – Life isn’t always going to be a breeze and your marriage won’t survive if you only love and honor in the best of times. Again, those are choices that you have to make and make them even when times are tough. The tough times won’t always stay. In fact, the tough times don’t seem so tough when you do choose to love and honor and work together as a team.
FOR RICHER OR POORER, IN SICKNESS AND HEALTH – Again, life isn’t always going to be easy, but we need to stand with our spouses. We need to be there for them in the good and bad times. It is easier to endure trials with the support and love of another person. “For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.”~Ecclesiastes 4:10
FORSAKING ALL OTHERS, BE FAITHFUL ONLY TO HIM – Most people only think of this in terms of adultery, but it is much more than just a physical relationship with someone other than your spouse. There is what people call emotional adultery where you seek comfort or emotional intimacy with someone other than your spouse. A physical relationship with someone other than your spouse is clearly detrimental to your marriage. However, talking with and fantasizing about someone else can be just as detrimental.
In addition to these vows, most people begin their marriages with a wedding where they stand in a church and vow before God to keep these vows. When you do that, you are entering a covenant with God so you aren’t just promising your spouse, but God as well.
Satan hates anything that God loves which means that he hates marriage and is going to do all that he can to destroy it. He will use any of the areas mentioned above to attack. We need to be in constant prayer for not only our marriages, but the marriages of those around us. We need to stand and fight the attacks of the devil and we know that defeating him can only be done in the strength of Christ.
Please join me today in praying for your marriage, praying for the marriages of your friends and families, praying for the marriages of those who follow this blog, and for marriages in general. If you know of people who are struggling in their marriages, pray for them. If you know people who seem to have a strong marriage, still pray as they may not actually have a strong marriage or they may have some rough roads ahead. Pray that couples will lean on Christ for strength and seek to draw closer together by drawing closer to Him.
God tells us that where two or three are gathered, He will be in the midst of them. Let us join together and pray!
Dear Heavenly Father, You created the institute of marriage and made it holy. I pray for all couples. I pray they seek You personally and seek Your strength and wisdom to help them in their marriages. I pray they will make You the center of their marriages. I pray they love one another. I pray wives honor their husbands. I pray they endure through the hard times as much as they enjoy the good times. I pray for faithfulness not only to their spouses physically and emotionally, but also faithfulness to You. I pray for openness of feelings and thoughts. I pray for unity in each marriage. I pray for communication. I pray for intimacy-both physical and emotional. I pray for my own marriage in all these areas as well. Lord, may You strengthen and encourage couples in their walk with You and each other. May You be glorified in relationships that are healed and restored. I also pray that if we can be of help in any way to the marriages around us that You would show us how best to do that. Help us be the people who stand and warn others of the dangers ahead. Help us know how to advise them through the potholes they will encounter. You are a good and faithful God who only desires the best for His children and You love each and every one of us. In the name of Your Son, Jesus Christ, I pray. Amen.
Darcy Carmichael is a help meet to Chad and a mother to 12 beautiful children (11 girls and 1 boy). She keeps the home and homeschools the children all while supporting her husband as he works full time and preaches every week. They have a small homestead to help with the budget and she enjoys sewing and crafting. She blogs at Gracious Daughter of the King when she has the chance (which isn’t as often as she would like).